For you and your family

Family Mediation

If you are getting divorced or separating, family mediation gives you the control to make decisions about your future, and the future of your children.

Our mediators, Rebekah Gershuny and Mark Kosmin, have years of experience helping couples to secure the right solutions for them and their children.

As members of Resolution, Rebekah and Mark are committed to reducing conflict. Mediation offers you a non-confrontational way of working that is better for children and is quicker and more cost effective than going to court.

Why family mediation?

Family mediators are independent trained professionals who help you to work out an agreement about issues such as arrangements for your children or your finances without having to go to court.  There are many benefits to mediation:-

  • It helps you to make long term arrangements in respect to finances and children;
  • It can help to improve communication;
  • It reduces conflict;
  • It is quicker, less stressful and much less expensive than going to court;
  • You both set the agenda, and you both make the decisions: You remain in control of the process throughout.

What is a MIAM?

The initial meeting with a mediator is often called a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM). It usually lasts around 45 minutes. This meeting gives you the chance to find out how mediation works and to explain about your current circumstances. 

If you want to take your case to court, it is now a legal requirement in most cases to attend a MIAM.

This meeting is held separately from your ex. If you decide that you do not wish to try mediation, you will be provided with the relevant court form to show that you have considered mediation.

What happens after the first meeting?

If you and your ex agree to try mediation, an appointment will be made for your first joint mediation session. Usually this is held in the same room with your ex, but in appropriate circumstances you can sit in separate rooms. This is called “shuttle mediation”. 

How long does mediation take?

It usually takes between three and five sessions to reach an agreement, but this will depend upon your individual circumstances, and what you need to sort out.

Is family mediation legally binding?

The decisions that you reach in mediation are not legally binding. Our mediators will explain to you how you can get a legally binding court order and will provide you with all the necessary paperwork so that this is a straightforward process for you.

When is family mediation not appropriate?

Family mediation may not be the right process for everyone.  It may not work where there has been domestic violence or child abuse.

When are children involved in mediation?

We offer Child Inclusive Mediation. This means that children can be invited to meet with a mediator, provided that both parents agree. This will enable your children to have a say, and so help you as parents to make arrangements that take account of their wishes and feelings.

Can I get legal advice whilst in mediation?

Mediators do not give legal advice. However, our mediators will recommend that you use a solicitor to obtain independent legal advice. You can obtain legal advice at any time during the process. If appropriate it is also possible for your solicitors to be more directly involved in the mediation process. This may be appropriate if you feel that you need some additional support.

At the end of the mediation process your solicitor can ensure that any agreements that you reach are made legally binding.

If you would like to find out more about mediation please call for a 15 minute free chat, or email or to arrange an appointment.